The phone rang and we stood there, as we do, and waited for the Caller ID to reveal the identity of the person on the other end. It was a name I didn’t recognize. The girl swooped over my shoulder and said, “I’ll take this,” and grabbed for the phone. “Helloooo Jacob,” she said and sashayed from the kitchen, up the stairs and to her room.
I stood there, dumbfounded.
And so it begins.
Listen, kid. I don’t expect you to call every day. Far from it. But don’t get so carried away having fun at college that you forget about your old mom. Check in once in awhile. Let us know what’s going down. I’m available via text, e-mail, voicemail and actual mailed letter. (I seriously would faint dead away if you wrote an actual snail mail letter).
Of course you don’t need to tell me every minute detail; I know you won’t, but just tell me this: if it’s better or on par with Disney World — then I’ll know you’re OK.
The boy made a list of items he needs for college. Peppered throughout is his new favorite word: janx. The list includes items such as the following:
Janx is interchangeable with Junk, or stuff. I hear it so often it has almost infiltrated my own vocabulary. I don’t know where it came from, but I am resisting the urge to adopt it. However, it is amazing how much janx I must buy this kid before he leaves.
I went shopping for the boy. $200 in college supplies that included Advil, cleaning supplies, toiletries, Band-Aids, hangers, paper clips, Post-it Notes, etc.
The school published a long list of recommended items including this one: Air mattress for when you have guests.
That one made me chuckle. Guests in dorm rooms pull up a piece of the floor or, the more intimate kind bunk with you in your single, crammed in like sardines. We just earned a free air mattress from the loyalty program at Harris Teeter. Maybe I should pack it with the rest of the stuff for the boy.
The countdown has begun. The boy will leave for college in 24 days. I’m sleepless, thinking of all I may have forgotten to tell him before he goes.
Does he know he was the best thing that ever happened to me? I mean, besides getting married and of course, having his sister, those were also ?best things”. He was the best thing that happened to me in 1990.
The boy was born the Monday after Superbowl Sunday. It was icy and cold. He was two weeks late and a dollar short. Irony.
Now he’s the age I was when he was conceived. How is that possible? Wasn’t I older, at 18 and a half? Just after my freshman year of college we learned about the boy, and to some, it was tragic. Who doesn’t think teenage pregnancy isn’t tragic? And yet, the boy has charmed my life from the moment he made himself known.
I know who and where I was before he was around. I wonder who and where I’ll be when he’s away?
Hey there Charlottesville — I’m hosting a Tweetup/blogger gathering lunch at West Main Restaurant this Friday, July 25 at noon. Reply in the comments or DM me on Twitter @Marijean to let me know if you can make it. See you there!
I have a new favorite product: Dr. Scholl’s Rub Relief Strips. I spotted these in the aisle at Target and thought this might be the right solution for the three pairs of shoes I have left, for the most part, sitting in my closet all summer. When I have worn these shoes, either strappy summer sandals or peep-toes, they’ve rubbed blisters onto my toes or the sides of my feet. That relegated them pretty quickly to the back of the closet, unworn.
The strips come in a dispenser so you can tear off and apply as much or as little as you need to the inside of your shoes, padding where needed. Last night I fixed up all three pairs and happily realized I just added three “new” pairs of shoes to my wardrobe — for less than 10 bucks. Not bad.
I was in the parking lot of Food Lion when I overheard an exchange between an irate customer and a manager.
Customer: I would think that you would try harder with your customers. When Harris Teeter opened over there (across Rte. 29), they really took a lot of your business.
Manager: (unintelligible)
Customer: Well, if I were you, I’d try to get them back.
She’s right, and yet, while the Food Lion is closer to home and cheaper, I would rather drive further and pay more than enter its automatic doors.
It’s obvious to any customer that Food Lion is missing the boat in dramatic fashion. Even though I may drive further to get to Harris Teeter, the trip takes me the same amount of time, since I know I’ll wait in a line with a snarly cashier behind people stocking up on Twinkies.
Here are just some of the differences between the two:
Customer Service: At HT, they actually know my name, everyone greets me and has a smile on his or her face. At FL, they ignore me and talk to one another. At HT, a guy chatted to me about the (unavailable) lard. At FL, there’s no one around to ask for anything.
Products: At FL, the produce section is small, there is no butcher, fresh fish or cut to order meat. At HT, the produce section is large and there is a great variety. The amount of food HT carries is actually astonishing and FL’s selection pales in comparison.
Store appearance: FL often appears dirty. So does the largely unkempt staff. At HT, everyone looks like they walked off the set of High School Musical and the floors gleam, especially the wood floors in the wine section. Did I mention that FL doesn’t even have a wine section?
I don’t even know why I’m bothering to write this. The differences are so obvious; so painful, that I’m not sure why I’ve even returned to Food Lion for a “quick trip” to pick up one item. It’s not worth it. Oh, and before you tell me that the Food Lion is “remodeling” to make the store better — I know — that won’t do the trick. Remodeled attitudes and selection are what they need in addition to new linoleum and a fresh coat of paint.
It’s pretty telling in this economy when we’re trying to save gas and money when I’d rather drive further and pay more for better service and selection. I know I’m not alone. Relationships with customers are what’s going to keep doors open.
Dwight painfully pointed out that his son leaves for college in 34 days. Until that moment, I hadn’t counted, but it’s true. Only 34 days left.
These days, the boy and I pass in the hall. Or he says goodnight after I’ve been sleeping for a couple of hours. I start my day at 6:25am. He wakes up after noon. I am in and out, going to meetings for work. I wrap up my day as he’s going to work. I’m asleep when he gets home.
What boy?
We haven’t eaten a meal together since our vacation. I’m not sure I remember what he looks like. I couldn’t tell you, on any given day, what he was wearing when I last saw him. There’s a good chance it was green or ripped jeans and some snarky tee-shirt from Woot.
He says, in passing, that he’s just helping me with the separation.
I continue to plot the cleaning I will give his room when he leaves, something I haven’t been allowed to do since he was about 12. Anyone have a HazMat suit I can borrow?
I pulled a “While You Were Out” bedroom re-do for the girl while she was on her Great Grandparent Tour of 2008. Her room badly needed repainting, so I started there and added some extra touches to take the room from “elementary school girl’s room” to “middle school girl’s room.”
Here’s the whole set of bedroom makeover photos.
I took advantage of the three-day July 4th weekend to accomplish the project, and began by taping the first section of the room on Thursday night. I had purchased paint and supplies the previous weekend, so when I was ready to get started, I had everything I needed.
The room started off as a pretty deep purple. I was concerned about covering it and did not necessarily want to do a coat of primer. I decided to go to Sherwin Williams and get an education in paint. After a half hour discussion on the benefits of their various paint products, I opted for the Duration interior paint.
When it came to supplies, I headed to Lowe’s and bought paint tray liners for $.67 each and a big roll of 3″ tape.
The room prep took all Thursday evening. It took me quite awhile to get the furniture moved to the center of the room, to tape off the walls and windows and mostly, to remove the curtain brackets which were screwed in very tightly to the walls. It was hot, too so I was pretty exhausted from just this step.
I couldn’t wait to get started though, eager to see the room transform. I had chosen two light shades of blue and decided to do opposite walls. Respite Blue would go on two and Swimming would go on the others.
I started with the Respite Blue, the lighter of the two colors. I was immediately concerned because as the paint rolled on, it looked very white. I pressed on, though and finished the first coat on two walls before I was ready to quit for the day. I completed the second coat early the next morning. I was surprised to find how the color came through as the paint dried and relieved to find that it was, indeed the color I’d selected. I was halfway done with the painting portion of the project by 10am on Friday. It took me a couple of hours to prep the second two walls, primarily
because these walls were more difficult to navigate and because I ran out of 3″ tape and had to make a second trip to Lowe’s. I have decided I will never use anything but 3″ tape, though. That, plus the high quality, more expensive paint is what made this project go much faster and have much better results. I was pleasantly surprised when I pulled off the tape from the first two walls that I did not have a single paint rip and had no touching up to do at all.
As the paint dried, I grew more confident in the color choice. The lighter color really brightened up the room and a fresh coat of paint always makes a room look clean and new.
I got started with the second color, the Swimming blue on Friday afternoon and was totally finished painting the room by Saturday morning. It was the easiest painting job I’ve ever had. Granted, I made it easier on myself by using the wider tape, the better paint and the throw-away paint tray liners - all steps that saved
tons of time and stress. On Sunday afternoon I went shopping for embellishments. I bought fabric in solid purple and a patterned turquoise. I bought a bulletin board and reframed it with the purple fabric. I also replaced a pale pink lampshade with a purple beaded one, bought purple satin ribbon to make tie-backs for the curtains and a blue-framed message board to hang on the wall.
The girl had been asking for a mirror in her room and I bought one at Target for $10 to go on the back of her
door.
The two shades of blue ended up being pretty closely related — there’s not much of a difference between them. It’s noticeable, but just barely. I was at first kind of dismayed by this but I’m still glad I didn’t go with a much darker shade — it would have been a little too dramatic and the lighter colors really make the room appear larger.
The purple accents were not pre-meditated; it was just so easy to find and seemed to work well with the pale blue. Once I found the lampshade, the rest of the purple followed.
I found turquoise throw rugs at Pier One for $6 each and decided to brighten up the beige carpet by putting one in front of each of her closets. It took me the better part of the day to clean out and reorganize her closets and while I was shopping at Bed Bath and Beyond I found a closet organizer and a matching “bedside buddy” to help keep her stuff in place.
Her bedspread is the original — she still likes it and the colors still go with the new paint so there was no need to update them.
The bedside organizer will hopefully cut down on the pile of books and stuff she typically has next to her bed. It has several pockets where she can store games, her Nintendo DS, her iPod, books and magazines.
The closet organizer has a few stuffed animals in it for now, but will be a place for her to store folded clothes or to plan her outfits for the week.
I developed a fondness for fabric storage bins during other organizing projects this year. I have dark blue bins on the shelves that line the stairs to the basement. They keep our recycling bags in order, our cleaning products and overflow kitchen items neat and organized. I also have a collection of cooking magazines filling one bin.
The boy has brown suede bins on shelves in his room and stores tee shirts in them.
I try to pick these up when they’re on sale and found them luckily two for $11 on my shopping day. The girl can store any manner of stuff in them and keep her toy closet organized and neat looking.
In some of the photos you’ll see big blue flower cutouts. From the girl’s last birthday party she had a decorative streamer that she loved, and had hung on her wall. I salvaged the flowers from it and placed them around her room; on the bulletin board, the message board (which is magnetic), on her desk and bookshelf to use as coasters when she has a drink in her room. The color of the flowers happened to match perfectly and she was very happy to see them incorporated throughout.
The whole room redo was not too expensive. Paint and supplies were around $100, the closet organizers and bedside buddy totalled $36, the lampshade was $15, two rugs were $12, the bolt of ribbon and fabric was $15 and the bulletin and message board were about $30.
The girl was surprised (she knew I was painting — but that’s all she knew) and delighted by her room redo which is a good thing because it’s a look that will have to last through high school.
